Hi there… How’s it going? Probably not all that great or you wouldn’t be here looking for help. No worries. Teens have been emailing me since 1997 because I give good advice. If you’ve got a problem with friends, so-called friends, a bf/gf, a parent, or anything else… email me. I can help you sort out your feelings. No matter what’s going on, you always have choices. And choices matter because sometimes the stuff we do to “fix” a problem only makes things worse. You don’t want to go there. Instead, let me help you figure out your next best move
In friendship,
Terra (aka Annie Fox)
From Terra’s Inbox
“'I'm freaking out that I might be gay!” |
“How can I get my girlfriend's dad to trust me?” |
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Hey Terra, This morning something weird happened. I was kinda still sleeping when my mom came to wake me up and I said "I'm not allowed in the House of Congress until 1883 because they banned homosexuals." Now I don't think I'm gay, I like girls. I've never had sex but I've had crushes and a desire to do stuff. When I masturbate I think about girls. But what I said when I was waking up is freaking me out. What does this mean? Not Gay |
Hey Terra, My girlfriend and I have been going out for six months now, and as far as we can tell, we're in love with each other (or at least I am with her -- it feels much stronger than any crush I've ever had). But the problem is that her dad is extremely overprotective. She has sat down with her dad and explained that she knows what he's worried about, and even gone into detail about everything to prove it to him. But he still won't let us go anywhere together. The only time that we went somewhere together was at a Halloween party at a nearby skating rink, and only because he didn't know I would be... |
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Annie’s Blog:
I want a boyfriend but I'm not good at flirting!
March 24, 2019
I wish I had a boyfriend...
I just got an email from a girl who's never had a boyfriend and she really wants one. We've all been there, right? Everyone deserves to be loved. Being loved by someone you love is an amazing feeling that nurtures your spirit and opens your heart and mind to the beauty of life. If you aren't in a relationship and you want to be, you may feel frustrated and/or impatient. But you know what they say? You can't hurry love. You can, however, prepare yourself to be a good partner by learning about yourself, what you want, and what you need.
Teen: I'm a 16 year old girl who never had a boyfriend before but I really want one. The thing is, I'm kind of shy so I'm not that good at flirting!
Annie: It might be helpful for you to think about what kind of boyfriend you™re looking for. How about if you fill in the blank in this sentence?
I want a boyfriend who is __________________________________________.
Keep brainstorming until you run out of things that are true for you.
Teen: I want a boyfriend who is: loyal, friendly, kind, respects boundaries, a good listener, and willing to try new things.
Annie: That™s a very thoughtful list of qualities. Good work. So tell me, do you already know someone with any or some of those qualities?
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